Choosing Divorce Mediation

Divorce MediationWhen you’re preparing to end your marriage, and consequently file for divorce, it’s normal for you to have different points of view from your spouse on issues such as property division, child custody, and child or spousal support. Disagreeing on such issues, however, doesn’t mean that you have to be in a courtroom or in front of a judge to resolve them.

Fortunately, you can now choose some alternative methods to divorce without going through the traditional path of litigation. One of these methods is local divorce mediation.

What is divorce mediation?

In divorce mediation, a neutral individual called the mediator enables divorcing couples to reach agreements that both parties can accept by themselves. Through the intervention of the mediator, the spouses discuss the issues of their divorce in a way that makes it easier for them to settle their opposing points of view.

The mediator doesn’t decide who’s right or who’s wrong between the spouses, and doesn’t make the decisions for them either. They also don’t force couples to agree on their issues. Instead, they help spouses reach a solution that works for them on their own. After all, agreements can only be achieved if the spouses freely discuss all their differences.

How does it work?

In Long Island, spouses end up in divorce mediation either by court referral or by written agreement made by the spouses.

If a court defers a divorce case for mediation, the parties will receive a notification. This provides them with the
opportunity to object the mediation, based on a reasonable basis like domestic violence. Otherwise, the court will appoint or allow the couple to decide on a qualified mediator.

Once the spouses decide to go for mediation, it’s necessary to find a trained and experienced mediator, who is knowledgeable on family law matters. During the selection process, the style of the mediator should also be considered.

Fortunately, Long Island has options for community-based or court-annexed mediation centers, and experienced professionals serve as mediators.